Girl problems or rather, problems with girls
At the races at Randwick in Sydney on Saturday Alex got me thinking about the criticism girls face not from boys but from other girls, she turned to me and said 'Don't you hate it when you look over and a group of girls are looking you up and down.' It's true we all do it, girls are out to make other girls feel bad.
You would think that we dress to impress men which is firstly an extremely un-feminist way of looking at things but really the truth is we dress to impress other girls. Men are not the problem, its the bitchy way in which all girls judge each other which causes insecurity. My friends and I find this on nights out girls are very unapproachable always putting their noses up at other girls, of course not always there are some lovely people who we have met and really got on with but mostly we find ourselves talking to guys. Don't you think that maybe if women were more accepting of each other we could all be more accepting of ourselves?
Of course we have all done the 'What is she wearing?' We are conditioned to judge people on their looks before we even really know them. What difference does it make whether their shoes clash with their dress or they have a different sense of style. It is all about individuality we can be whoever we want to be and what we choose to wear or what we look like shouldn't be an issue. I know how it makes me feel if I am criticised for the way I look or if I can see a group of girls giving me that look, so maybe if we all tried to be less critical, maybe we would find ourselves feeling far less insecure and we would form better relationships with both men and women.
I wonder what it is that causes this female on female crime, why do we do it, Competition? Jealousy? Both?
"To some extent bitching is basic biological competing for the best mate, but in our more civilized world it has more to do with context. People in the pop and fashion use the constructs of appearance and popularity as measures of success and value." This quote from Dr Frankish, although regarding celebrities explains it, we are fighting to be the best constantly.
Celebrity culture is only making this increasingly worse, take for example Katie Price and Kelly Brook, slagging each other off at any opportunity whether it be on television or social media they are competing against each other constantly and for what, what does it really achieve? And on a smaller scale what do we really achieve from this vendetta against other girls, in the end does it really make us feel better about ourselves? Or are we just attempting to cover our own insecurities?
